Dating in 30s
Has the digital age made it easier for people to find true love?
Quite the contrary, finding love has become a lot more complicated. It is quite daunting, and it can take a lot of effort on your part. You might see a glimmer of her every time you look in the mirror, but you know that time has made you wiser and more in touch with reality when it comes to relationships.
Good thing I've learned to enjoy being by myself,” one person said.
But, independent mums were quick to defend themselves.
Those who are single are usually single for a reason! I spent my 20s travelling the world rather than planning a wedding and buying a baby stroller.
I have lived overseas for years, and have returned recently to NY to stay for awhile.
“Every relationship needs to be 'serious',” someone said.
By now, she is making her mark in her chosen career. At this point, she knows the difference between a true emergency and a minor inconvenience. She doesn't spend every second staring at her biological clock. She might want to get married and have children, but that doesn't mean she's desperate.
Dating is hard at any age, but even more so in your 30s. “You would think that people get better at treating each other well and mature emotionally as they age, but NOPE.” Another adds, “Lots and lots of unmatched swipes on Tinder.” But, perhaps the most common concern among those looking for love in their 30s is the amount of baggage people come with.
The playing field is narrower, your number of single friends is dwindling and everyone’s carrying around a whole lot more baggage. Taking to Reddit, droves of singletons in their thirties have been revealing what it’s really like to tackle the tricky world of dating. One user says, “Dating in your 30s is trying to find someone with the least amount of baggage (emotional, children, etc.), or at least less baggage than you.” “It's like sorting through a bargain bin of damaged goods,” another agrees.
Particularly, men were keen to point out the influx of single mums on the market.
“I don't want children & finding a woman in my age range without a kid or kids is only getting more & more difficult.